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The Odd Couple

by Erika Torres
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Eat, Watch, Run recently did a post on what makes her marriage different from other couples, and I thought it was so cute, I wanted to do our own version.

We only dated 3 months before getting married. Yeah, I think this definitely separates us from the rest of the crowd. You know how some people automatically peg other couples’ relationships with “they won’t last” because of a specific trait? kinda like kim kardashian and whats-his-name? I think when people hear this about us, they peg us in their heads with “they won’t last.”

We didn’t live together before marriage. You never hear that nowadays. Obviously, people who lived together will vouch that it’s the only way to go, but I loved having that real newlywed phase where it was so wonderful waking up next to each other and knowing it was going to be that way forever and smiling when I would see his dirty laundry on the floor.

Both sets of  parents are still married. My parents have been married 29 years, Eric’s parents have been married like 37 years or something like that. It makes holidays and get-togethers a lot easier.

We go to bed before 10 almost every single night and we always go to bed at the same time. Even on weekends. We’re definitely early-to-bed, early-to-rise kinda people. This past weekend, we woke up around 6 a.m. and took a long walk with our pup to a local coffee shop. It’s one of our favorite weekend rituals. I think I can count on one hand the number of times Eric and I have gone to bed at different times (excluding the nights he was working).

I manage our money. In almost all relationships that I know of, the couple either a) has separate checking accounts  or b) the husband manages the money if they have a joint account. Coincidentally, both our moms manage the money.

What makes your relationship different?

11 comments

City Girl October 6, 2011 - 8:01 pm

Ooh – this was a great idea for a post! As much as I thought I knew about you guys, I didn’t know how early you guys go to bed and wake up. And, I would say that for most of my friends, the women manage the money. xoxo

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britt@knewlywifed October 6, 2011 - 8:05 am

Cute post! My hub and I didn’t live together beforehand either, which is pretty rare these days! We go to bed by 10, too! REBELS!

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Ava October 3, 2011 - 1:26 pm

My parents will celebrate their 60th in the spring, my significant other’s were together that long before one of them passed. We are LATs and it works amazingly well for us. We each maintain a home, handle our own finances, but are totally commited to each other and our relationship. Many people think we’re odd (everyone has on opinion, doncha know) and that it’s unnatural, but it works for us and that’s what matters.

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Ana October 3, 2011 - 10:16 am

Aww this is a cute post!

I also manage the finances around here (we have a joint acct) and we didn’t live together before getting married. Actually, we only saw each other during the weekends the whole time we dated.

I think that what makes us different is that we met when he was vacationing in my country and were introduced by a guy that we have no idea who is, spent three days together and then I decided to move to his country. After 6 months of online dating and me looking for a job here, we met again!

My friends kept telling me that it just a “summer romance” that I should forget. So glad I followed my heart 🙂

Happy week!

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Melissa October 3, 2011 - 6:39 am

Too cute! You guys are perfect for each other! My husband and I were actually childhood friends until I moved away for a few years. I moved back in high school and we were high school sweethearts! We did live together before we were married, but we also had a child before we were married. We have since gotten married, had another child and stayed happily married for 6 years. We have been a couple for almost 12 years now… and I do maintain the budget and bills. I just keep him updated so we are both on the same page…

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Taylor October 2, 2011 - 8:32 pm

I love this post!

Here’s my contribution!
DH and I knew after 2 weeks of dating that we’d found our be-all-end-all, but we took a year to get engaged, and another year and a bit to tie the knot
DH doesn’t wear his wedding ring. (he’s allergic to gold!)
We’ve had roommates living with us for more of our married life than not. One day this will not be the case.. One day…

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Michelle October 2, 2011 - 4:14 pm

What a great post. I’m kind of like you, when people find our about us, they assume we won’t last. We started dating when we were 17 and bought a house at the age of 20, and no one thought we would last. It’s been almost 6 years now. I know this isn’t incredibly long, but it’s something.

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Niki October 2, 2011 - 3:59 pm

This is cute.

I didn’t live with my husband before we got married either. I also manage our money.

I love that you guys got married after three months. When you know you know!

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Teacher Girl October 2, 2011 - 3:50 pm

You guys are made for each other! This post was really cute 😉

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jobo October 2, 2011 - 2:44 pm

I LOVE how in sync you and Eric are. I think you two have built such a strong foundation and after dating for such a short time…that is seriously incredible. The day I met you two, I was awe-struck by just how perfectly matched you were. Just sayin 😉 As for me? Well, I think because of our pasts, both being divorced, both valuing our independence and enjoying life made us the right match for each other. Among other reasons of course!

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Paula @ Eat: Watch: Run October 2, 2011 - 2:36 pm

I love it!!
Your parents being married is a good one! My hubs parents are still married but mine aren’t. And my sister in law also got married after just 3 months. The total opposite of me and my hubs.
You managing money is a good one. I only know one other couple like that and I think it’s so interesting when one doesn’t mind doing it and the other doesn’t mind that person doing it. I love the different things that work for different people!

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