Ever since my babies, babies, babies post, I’ve been thinking about two other child-related things that I just have to tell someone about because I want to know if I’m normal. Well, I already know I’m not normal…
The first is…I really want a girl. Like really want a girl. Like, I will be really really sad if I don’t have a girl. And I feel like this kind of sets me up for failure. It’s not that I don’t want a boy, because I do–I want a boy and a girl–it’s just that I feel like I’ll be
a little bit upset really upset if I don’t have a girl.
And here’s what I don’t get–when I ask other people, either people who have had kids, or people who are pregnant, all I get is “We’re fine with a boy or a girl.” And it’s like they really mean it. Is that because there’s some rule that you’re not supposed to say what gender you want?
Because I’m telling you know, I really want a girl. And I want a girl first, because then I can relax with my second pregnancy. Because you can bet your butt that if I have a boy first, I’m gonna be soooo nervous for the second…what if it’s another boy? And I don’t get a girl? And I will be sooo sad.
Obviously, I know I will get over it and all will be right with the world. But is it weird that I seriously think about this a lot more than I should, considering we’re still at least two years away from having kids? I mean, I think about it a lot–I have a very real fear of not having a girl.
Please tell me I’m not alone.
And the second thing I want to ask is–is it okay to have three kids?
When Eric and I first got married, we were all like “We’re gonna have four kids!” Now that I’m not drunk on love and can think a little clearer, I think three would be a much more manageable–both physically and financially–number. HOWEVER, I am getting major opposition from some people, ahem my mother, *cough*, that I cannot have three.
I am the oldest of three, and cannot imagine our family without my youngest brother (he was an oopsie). Eric is the youngest of two–and to me, their family just seems so small. My mother is the youngest of four, my dad the oldest of seven. I have A LOT of family and I like it that way. Family gatherings are big and loud and what’s not to love about more presents at Christmas time?
But I am told that three children is one too many. That there’s always drama with the middle child who feels neglected. Are middle children doomed?
Ideally, I would have a girl first, then a boy and I would be happy, and a third would be an option. However, if I have two boys, or two girls, I would be more inclined to try for a third.
I know I shouldn’t spend so much time planning this stuff, because you just can’t plan for this. But these two things have been occupying my mind. I mean, I seriously get nervous at the thought of having a baby because what if I don’t have a girl? And what if I have two boys or two girls? Is it okay to have a third?
SO. MANY. QUESTIONS.
Please help. I can’t be the only crazy one–does anyone else obsess about this stuff?? Or did you before you had kids? IS IT OKAY TO HAVE THREE KIDS? Are you a seriously messed up middle child?