When things turn out the way you want them to

by Erika Torres

SO–we finally heard back about Eric’s job interview that I was freaking out about…drumroll please…..

He didn’t get it.

Techinically I should be feeling like this:

Considering how getting a firefighter job has been our goal for the entirety of our marriage, you’d think I’d be really upset about another “Thanks, but no thanks” letter. But in reality, I was feeling like this:

Let me explain.

Eric had a Chief’s Interview, which is the final interview before being presented with a conditional job offer. For this particular position, he had beaten 500 other candidates to land one of the 12 spots that got a Chief’s Interview. I believe, about four out of those 12 were offered a position.

This was the same fire department that he had had an interview for last year. This was the same job, that just a year ago, we had prayed and prayed for. But this time, it was different.

I didn’t want him to get the job because it was 300 miles away, and because I knew that deep down, I don’t want a long distance marriage and it isn’t worth the money.

Last year, of course I wanted him to get the job! We were living in a shack. Eric was in the academy and he wasn’t working. I was beyond frustrated with our situation and would have given anything to get out of it–even if that meant living apart, I didn’t care, I was so over being poor.

But this year, we are so much happier. I love our little house. We have savings, we have been able to travel, we’re going out more and living a better life. Screw all that crap from other personal finance blogs about lifestyle inflation. Sometimes, Most of the time, lifestyle inflation will make you happier, as long as you can afford it and not have to worry about how you’re going to pay for it every month.

So when I wrote about how heavily this was weighing on me, it was really me saying–I know Eric wants the firefighter job, but I don’t want to risk our marriage over it. The point of marriage isn’t to live 300 miles apart, is it?

So I prayed and prayed, and simply asked that the right solution present itself. I didn’t pray that he wouldn’t get the job–I simply prayed for the right job.

Last week, Eric had three other interviews. I am hoping one of those pans out as well. But I am done letting this stuff stress me out. I don’t let myself get excited anymore or bummed out. I know that–just like my job situation two years ago–that the right opportunity will present itself to us at the right time.

For now, I am enjoying where we are right now. And I am happy to report that Eric is FINALLY full-time at his job. Steady paychecks make me one happy girl!



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Drop that Debt August 25, 2012 - 10:57 am

I definitely think things happen for a reason, hopefully one of the other interviews turns into something!

Jordann @ My Alternate Life August 22, 2012 - 7:50 am

I’m glad that you’re happy with the outcome, and I completely understand, no amount of money is worth that kind of distance. The right job will present itself, you just need to stay patient, positive, and persistent.

bogofdebt August 21, 2012 - 11:59 am

I’m glad everything is working out for you. And I agree that things happen for a reason.

Allison August 21, 2012 - 11:45 am

300 miles is too far. We did long distance marriage for six months and it sucked.

shannon August 21, 2012 - 4:08 am

Sounds like it is working out for the better!I’m with everyone else, it all happens for a reason. good luck to eric on the other interviews!!

jobo August 20, 2012 - 5:38 pm

Friend, everything happens for a reason and obviously, this was not meant to be, for several very good reasons! Of course. I would be happy too, the distance would be a LOT to handle!! Good luck Eric on your interviews this week!!

Mo' Money Mo' Houses August 20, 2012 - 4:46 pm

Hey, everything happens for a reason right? He probably wasn’t meant for that job but I’m sure the right job will present itself.

Teacher Girl August 20, 2012 - 2:07 pm

Oh my goodness! 300 miles is way too far. I am so happy that he is full time at a job that is near you. You two need to be together! I am glad that you prayed for the right solution because it sounds like that is exactly what has happened for you guys =).

CeCe @Frugalista Married August 20, 2012 - 1:52 pm

I’m so with you!! Obviously you are stupid if you live above your means and go broke but if paying more in rent improves your quality of life which improves your overall happiness it’s worth it. We weren’t put here just to suffer and work and save up money and be miserable. Life should be enjoyed as well-within reason of course but like with anything in life it’s about moderation and playing it smart. Which it sounds like you did. Good luck with the job stuff!!

Michelle August 20, 2012 - 12:51 pm

300 miles is too far for me as well. I wouldn’t be able to do it. Glad he didn’t get the job 🙂

Jessica @ Budget for Health August 20, 2012 - 12:47 pm

I could not imagine living 300 miles away from my husband! I’m glad he didn’t get it too haha

SavvyFinancialLatina August 20, 2012 - 12:46 pm

Congrats!!! Enjoy this time!

Erin @ His & Hers August 20, 2012 - 12:16 pm

I’m so glad it’s been working out so far. How funny that it was the same job last year only you were hoping for a different outcome. Pretty cool how the Lord works and circumstances change. 🙂

Jai Catalano August 20, 2012 - 11:28 am

Go Eric… Don’t let it stress you out. You want to know why? He is saving the world one fire at a time. Firefighting is such a commendable job and there are only the special that can really do it.

I wish you guys well.


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