How to Balance a Career & a Marriage at the Same Time

by Susan Paige
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People are complex. They play many different roles. Indeed, during the course of any given day, a person may act as a mother, wife, manager, coworker, confidant, and/or friend. The reality is, finding the right balance between career ambitions and a serious relationship is very difficult. Many people may even believe that they have to choose between one or the other. Fortunately, this isn’t the case. To that end, here are four helpful tips for managing your work and home life effectively:

Be Honest & Upfront

The first step to achieving a healthy balance between your work and personal life is to be honest. Speak with your significant other and let them know that your career is very important to you. Similarly, have a conversation with your boss and relevant coworkers and tell them that you have certain relationship obligations that you won’t break. It’s important to let everyone know where you stand and how you plan to apportion your time.

Maintain Separation 

With the advent of smartphone technology, it’s never been more difficult for dedicated professionals to get away from their (supposedly) nine-to-five jobs. Yet, if you’re serious about your relationship, you can’t be constantly responding to emails or trying to finish up assignments related to complex products, like a 96 well microplate, after office hours. Work while you’re at work and spend time with your loved ones while at home. This advice is deceptively simple, but it will save you so much stress if you embrace it.

Set Reasonable Goals

Some of the best professionals suffer from a lack of patience. They want to succeed so badly that they try to rush their career development. Unfortunately, this can be counterproductive –– particularly if you’re trying to balance a serious relationship with climbing the corporate ladder. As such, it makes sense to set reasonable short-term goals that will allow you to make incremental progress. Just be sure to give equal weight to your relationship and your career when setting goals. If setting goals has been a challenge BetterHelp provides consultation services that can assist you in doing so.

Just Say No

No matter how hard you try, you can’t please everyone all the time. Given that fact, it’s important for everyone to learn to say no when they’re feeling overwhelmed. Recognize what’s most important to you and be willing to pass on an assignment if you truly don’t have the time to tackle it. If someone respects you, they’ll understand your desire to set limitations.


It’s not easy to reach lofty career milestones while also maintaining a happy marriage. The key, as many people have pointed out before, is communication. Talk to your spouse about everything –– from your finances, to your dreams, to your worries, to your lunch preferences. The more you communicate, and the better you do it, the more likely your relationship will flourish.

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