It’s a little known rule that if you establish yourself as a newlywed blog, you’ll eventually be expected to produce babies. I didn’t think of this until it was too late–but I mean, really? First comes love, then comes marriage…I should have known.
The problem is even though you know you’re not ready, and you know there’s still a lot on your baby bucket list before you even start trying to preheat your oven, you sense the baby mania…on twitter, on the blogs, in friendships. And it makes you wonder, question your decision, because darn it, sometimes babies can be just so freakin’ cute!
Luckily, I remind myself how much I still love sleep and that “craving a baby” feeling disappears in 0.2 seconds flat. But still, sometimes I have to wonder…
Between Eric and I, we have two married couple friends. TWO. That’s it. And between those two, one of them is 5 months along, and the other is trying. Maybe we need new friends?
Finally, when I thought I just couldn’t handle any more of this baby talk, I came across this post on Twitter. Are you ready for a baby or not?
Ahhhhh, a list. I love lists. And this is a checklist. Even better.
Signs You’re Ready…
Your Finances are Rock Solid obviously this is definitely a no. We live in a shack, and are currently in another $200 for 10 days spending fast, which needs to cover gas, food and our dog’s grooming. Oh and did I mention one of us will be out of work for four months starting in late August?
You Have a Support System We’ve got my parents, his parents, my aunt, my grandma, cousins, my brothers…all within a 20-minute radius of us. I think we’re covered.
You’re Ready to Sacrifice “Me Time” No, no, no! I don’t want to!
You Can Deal with Discord I do not like discord. I don’t even like it when Eric can’t put his dirty clothes in the hamper, can you imagine a toddler who won’t put his toys away? No, thank you!
You’ve Got Questions The other day I googled “How much pee can my bladder hold?” Does that count?
Signs You’re Not…
You Both Put Work First Well at this point yeah. What else are we supposed to do? Put each other first? Puh-leaze.
You Still Crave Freedom I love it
You Feel the Pressure I don’t actually feel pressure to have babies. My MIL is already a grandma, and my parents–at ages 47 and 49, respectively–are in no rush to become grandparents. But I do sense the baby craze that happens on newlywed blogs.
You Want a Baby Band-Aid Eric and I don’t have any serious problems that we need a baby to fix. A bottle of tequila works just fine.
You’re Not on the Same Page I read on a blog (sorry, don’t remember which one) about how she can’t even talk about babies with her hubby. I thought that was really sad. I’m really glad that Eric and I are very open about when we want to have babies and that both our timelines have at least a few more years before that’s even a possibility.
So there you have it. Two checked off on the “Ready” list and three checked off on the “Not Ready” List. I guess this means I’m not ready? I don’t know, math is confusing. For now, I’ll take it!
Now I need to get working on that baby bucket list.
How do you feel about babies?